Friendship…..yaari….dosti….aur kya!

Hello all! I am back and how! J Friends and friendship is something close to my heart! All my life, I have been accused of being partial towards my friends and yes, I am guilty!

There hardly is any relationship, which matches friendship. The beauty of friendship lies in the amazing sense of equality. Friends are always equal. They are just friends. They are not intimidated by each other’s professional persona and nor should they. Now that I am writing this I vividly recall so many friends at so many junctures of life. Some are still in touch, many are not. Some were so close at that moment in time that just a phone call to them, after a decade seems like I had spoken to them yesterday. I feel friendship is like learning to ride a bicycle or learning to swim; once you know it, you never forget it!

There’s a subhashit (words of wisdom) in Sanskrut (Sanskrit)

 यथा  काष्ठं च काष्ठं च समेयातां महोदधौ | 

समेत्य च व्यपेयातां तद्वत भूत समागमः ||

Meaning, the way wooden logs thrown in a stream (literally Sea!) come close and eventually may depart, similarly, people in our lives come close and depart. It’s so true in case of friends. Remember your best pal in K.G., is that friend still your best friend? Chances are that he is not! Has he become less of a friend! Definitely not! Your lives just came together for that period in time and then you both moved on. Then, there are school mates, college mates, hobby class mates and yes in Mumbai you have local train mates tooJ. Friends move on in life, professionally. Friendship remains! Friend is someone who will defend you no matter what. It is never about your action, it is always about you.

When you think of it…..there is soooo much to remember…… the mischiefs in the school…. forgetting homework…. Forgetting notebooks….. getting punished with friends…… still laughing it off, while standing on the bench……. First day in college…… the new set of friends….. the introduction to love and vices (are they different…..??) bunking the classes together…. The movies ….. the beaches…. The outings…. The overnight picnics…… the aspirations….. falling in love….. rising in love….. riding a bike….. driving a car….. the unconditional support of friends…. Growing up…. Choosing a career…. Growing professionally….. getting introduced to hypocrisy, professionalism…. now there is only conditional support…… sitting alone at the top…… no one telling you the truth….. you are lost….. you don’t remember who you are…… a phone call…… and such a profane guy on the other side of the phone…… the fog in the head is getting cleared….. that someone knows ‘you’….just ‘you’….. not Mr., Ms., Mrs., Dr., CA or anyone….just plain ‘you’and you know the bugger too well too….. he is a ‘friend’….. nothing more and nothing less …. A ‘friend’….. you remember….. you recall who ‘you’ are and what ‘you’ want to do….. you simply wish to connect….. and you do that exactly…. You reclaim your life …. You take timeout from your busy schedule …… you lose some business ….. you set off the loss with happiness ….. you say ‘fuck it!’ and escape to ‘reality’….. from the surreal world of material success ….. you escape to reality where people know you….. and ah what a feeling…… friends….. yaari …… dosti ….. aur kya!!! What’s this world without ample friendship in it!

Happy friendship day to you…..why today….because every day is a friendship day!😉

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4 Responses to Friendship…..yaari….dosti….aur kya!

  1. Rakesh Jagtiani says:

    I love that last line! Surprisingly, many of my old friends, from school, first job, etc are getting in touch once again……you can imagine how good that feels!

  2. Shalaka Pitale says:

    Hey very well written….😊
    Good that we all school friends are again in touch ….just want to add one more line….
    Har ek friend jaroori hota hai !!!!

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